Hello Sparkling Minds,
As we enter the summer holiday season, I hope you are all enjoying the warmth and vitality this time brings. This week, my thoughts have been circling an issue that has reached epidemic proportions—one that deserves our attention and contemplation. I invite you to sit back, open your minds, and join me in reflecting on this significant topic.
As we enter the summer holiday season, I hope you are all enjoying the warmth and vitality this time brings. This week, my thoughts have been circling an issue that has reached epidemic proportions—one that deserves our attention and contemplation. I invite you to sit back, open your minds, and join me in reflecting on this significant topic.
Thoughtful people, before we delve deeper, I want to emphasize that I am not a motivational speaker, therapist, psychologist, or counselor. I use this platform to share my thoughts on topics that are often overlooked or sensitive. It is important to note that these issues need to be addressed, as the lack of awareness is what leads to difficult situations, which in turn act as triggers of traumatic events that have not been processed. As I have mentioned earlier in one of my posts, some of my posts are triggering. And as I continue to write, I must confess that I too fall prey to some of these triggers; however, the difference is that it helps me process the traumatic event related to it and supports me in my healing process. It’s a win-win situation as it not only helps me but also serves as an example for people to learn, raise awareness, and empower them. This builds a more solid and resilient generation, for the present we live in now and the future.
Now, let’s embark on this exploration with some challenging questions: Why is it so difficult for men to express themselves, particularly during challenging times? What societal norms dictate how they should or shouldn’t convey their struggles? Is it ever right for them to air out their voices? And where can men find safe spaces to share their burdens while still embracing their masculine energy?
These questions may seem overwhelming, yet as I unpack my thoughts, I hope to illuminate the path toward understanding. I am not here to claim to know men as an expert; however, these are my thoughts on this topic. Now, we can agree that the societal pressure that the male gender goes through is undeniably huge. From early on, men are often held to rigid expectations: they must reach milestones by certain ages, achieve success at any cost, and maintain a facade of strength. This relentless pressure can lead many to overlook vital aspects of emotional intelligence, creating a disconnected and robotic existence.
Many men come from backgrounds marked by hardship and trauma, which builds walls that further obstruct emotional expression. The false narrative that vulnerability is a trait reserved for women creates a harmful stigma. At our core, we are all human, capable of experiencing a wide array of emotions, from joy to sorrow. Men, just like women, deserve the right to express their feelings in healthy, constructive ways to make us better versions of ourselves.
The idea that men should “suck it up” in the face of adversity is not only unrealistic but damaging, especially when they have genuinely gone through terrible situations or traumatic childhood experiences. Society should be empathetic and realistic with the male gender and allow them to be human. Most men cannot express how they truly feel because they will be labeled as “weak” or “womanish.” Well, the lack of it is what creates this unfortunate stigma that leads to destructive behaviors and social issues, including increased rates of violence and criminality. Does it mean I am here to encourage bad behavior? Nope! Every action has its consequences, whether good or bad. Hence, there are consequences for destructive behaviors, which brings me to my point: instead of pointing fingers and being judgmental, creating pressure for these men, the question should be, why do they behave this way?
My thoughts on this are that there should be less pointing and more finding the root cause, because pointing fingers and being judgmental will not solve the problem; it actually breeds more toxic masculinity, where men become more misogynistic. Let’s create a safe haven for them to first understand why they behave the way they do and then try to find ways to make them feel that they are in a safe space to truly vent their pressure and trauma healthily. Whether from childhood, heartbreak, or betrayal, they must feel safe and understand that we indeed listen and don’t judge. I believe once we begin to build this bridge of understanding, it will be easy for them to be vulnerable, allow themselves to go through the process of healing, and still feel that masculine energy that makes them a true leader, provider, and protector.
To the women reading this, it is essential to treat our partners/husbands with understanding and compassion. Encourage open dialogue rather than imposing unrealistic expectations—advocate for financial independence, not just for your sake but for theirs. The burden men carry can lead to anxiety and serious health issues, including high blood pressure and even suicidal thoughts. We must work together to create a safe haven at home, a sanctuary where men can unburden themselves after a long day in the often-intense corporate world. Nurturing this bond fosters trust and significantly reduces the likelihood of infidelity.
For more information or insight about why women should be Industrious, you can read my blog post on Ladies Be Economically Stable!
As we celebrate fathers this month, let’s take a moment to appreciate the men in our lives. Consider how we can create a safe and nurturing environment for them.
You may be wondering why I, Sparkles, am addressing this subject. It’s simple: men provide the foundation for every generation. If that foundation is fragile, what will be the future of our legacies? Let’s acknowledge men as human beings worthy of respect and compassion, allowing them to embody a positive form of masculinity. If you’d like to engage further on this topic, check out my post on Redefining Masculinity: Why Expressing Emotions Is A Sign Of Strength.
Now, dear sparkling minds, I invite you to share your thoughts on this topic. Let’s engage in a meaningful dialogue and learn from one another.
Until the next post…xoxo,
Stay Thoughtful!
Stay Thoughtful!
Great….. God bless you… Very insightful..
AMEN!
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