Hello Thoughtful People…
How’s your heart this week?
Have you paused lately, really paused, to check in with yourself? Not the to-do list version of you, not the “everything’s fine” version… but the real you?
Because here’s a truth I’ve learned: the way you see yourself on the inside will decide everything you experience on the outside.
Sometimes, the greatest shift in our lives doesn’t start with a big event (a deep work in progress for me).
It starts with a quiet decision… a decision to truly see ourselves.
When we understand our value, we stop treating ourselves like an afterthought and start building the kind of life and legacy that feels worthy of us. And when we build that awareness, it doesn’t just shape our present. It shapes our destiny.
I’ve spoken about this before in my first two blog posts, Value and Value in Relationships. That’s where I first shared how knowing your worth is not about arrogance, it’s about alignment. It’s about setting the inner compass that determines not just where you go, but who gets to walk beside you. If you haven’t read them yet, revisit them — they’re the roots of everything we’re talking about today.
Here’s the audacious truth: Your values are the gatekeepers of your future.
They decide what you allow in, what you protect, and what you never compromise on. They influence the quality of your relationships, the integrity of your work, and the peace of your inner world.
But you can’t protect what you don’t understand.
That’s why discovering yourself, really knowing yourself, is where it all begins. Building emotional intelligence isn’t just a self-improvement trend; it’s the training ground where you learn to read people, guard your standards, and teach others exactly how to treat you.
And here’s the ripple effect: when your standards rise, your circle changes. You begin attracting people who value your presence, respect your boundaries, and share your purpose. You’ll find high-value personalities who don’t drain you; they complement you. Together, you move closer to your destiny, not further from it.
This is why I wrote my newest book, High Value, Higher Purpose: Redefining Worth, Attraction & Destiny.
In a world where surface attraction often drowns out deeper purpose, especially in relationships and marriages, we need a new standard. We need the courage to choose people with purpose, and that courage comes from knowing our worth. This book is your guide to building a value so high it demands respect and a purpose so clear it draws the right people to you. You can get your copy now on Amazon or Books By.
Your destiny is shaped in moments like these, the moments where you decide what’s no longer acceptable, what’s non-negotiable, and what’s worthy of your energy.
So let me leave you with this:
When you raise your value, you don’t just change your relationships. You change your lineage.
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When you raise your value, you don’t just change your relationships. You change your lineage.
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Let’s keep growing, healing, and building a legacy worth passing on.
Until the next post…
stay thoughtful.