It is a question that has been thrown out often, but think about it: what do these genders want? This is not to make any gender feel bad, not at all, or stereotype them in a box, no! This is a question to raise awareness for everyone to think about and to be cautious about what we want, especially in relationships.
What I have come to realize is that the majority of people take good people for granted. Streamline it to marriages/ relationships; good spouses or partners, both genders, tend to be taken for granted by their significant other. While for some weird reasons, the spouses that are not as committed to the marriage/relationship are more valued, in most cases, reasons for my question.
A woman will do everything within her ability to be that submissive wife/partner, yet she is being taken for granted. A man will also be the loving husband/partner, and it is also taken for granted. We are not saying these individuals are perfect as no one is however, their “weaknesses” are manageable, and the fact that they are committed to the marriage/relationship, they will want to be better and do better. Hence, my question is, what do men/women want in a marriage/relationship?
Again, it is such an irony that some individuals, both men and women alike, respect the spouse/partner who is not as committed to the marriage/relationship. Do you see the vicious cycle? From where I was born and raised, there is a saying that “this world has no balance,” and thinking about it, it seems to be the case.
Now, having this understanding of how ironic this situation is, then you, as a man, as a woman, have a job to do for yourself, and what is that? Well, you have to stay tuned for the second part of this post.
To build a community of learning and growth, it would be generous if you could share your thoughts in the comment session; remember, you can be anonymous; the purpose is for everyone to learn from it to avoid people experiencing this vicious cycle. We would appreciate it!
Thank you Sparkles for this wonderful and interesting topic!
As mentioned earlier, Life is not balance. I believe strongly It takes two to tango, two to accept blames, two to be willing to agree.
Fundamentally, it takes both parties to be responsible for the success or failure of a relationship. Unfortunately, reverse seems to be the case, because one party will always prove difficult.
Thank you so much Adey for taking the time to sharing your thoughts on this topic! You are absolutely 💯 correct, it takes two to make things work in anything.
I stated in details in part 2 of “What Men/Women Want?” that in the situation where one is difficult in any relationship, it means he/she has not taken the time to know who they are, i.e., the journey to self. Honestly, it is an intentional and delibrate action as I stated before. Until they take that time to do it, the other party involved should set healthy boundaries in a civil way, teaching others on how to treat them. It’s a task that needs wisdom and it differs across individuals.
It’s time for people to know and understand themselves and set healthy boundaries. Emotional intelligence is key!
Let’s spread this word, as awareness, comes empowerment, which yields to fulfillment of purpose.
Stay Thoughtful!