Hello, Sparkling Minds!
I hope you are all having a wonderful week filled with thoughtful thoughts. I am here again, your thoughtful personality with another intriguing topic that has been misinterpreted, Red Flags. We have heard this word being thrown out there without adequately understanding its application and how to approach it.
I hope you are all having a wonderful week filled with thoughtful thoughts. I am here again, your thoughtful personality with another intriguing topic that has been misinterpreted, Red Flags. We have heard this word being thrown out there without adequately understanding its application and how to approach it.
From my perspective, based on personal and professional experiences on its application, red flags are signs or attributes that exhibit themselves through a process or from an individual that serves as a trigger or warning that an error is likely to occur. Red flags, if attended to, help one to find the root cause of a mistake in a process/procedure or a problem with persons, especially in relationships. It is essential to know that these signs or triggers are there but most likely ignored as they end up in unpleasant situations.
In life, as humans, the importance of our existence is through the association and relationship we have with others. The kind of people we surround ourselves with in all spheres of life determines how far we attain from life. This means that every relationship we decide to associate ourselves with should be deliberate and intentional. Why is it essential to get to know people, whether for business, friendship, intimacy, or religious purposes? Why is it important to make choices, and why should it be taken seriously? Well, it is because by making these critical and intentional choices, red flags will be quickly addressed, reasons why businesses go wrong, relationships dissolve, and divorce in marriages.
Red flags are always there as they are naturally exhibited. As earlier stated, there are signs. Do not ignore them, especially when you are in any form of relationship. It is essential to study the other person you want to have any dealings or relationships with. The way they approach situations, the way they talk, the way they react to matters, the way they treat other people, especially their subordinates, etc. It is essential to know and observe the attributes that come out of their reactions. This is where one can easily see these red flags if they occur.
It takes a process because we are dealing with complex human beings. Sentiments and emotions do not work well when trying to observe red flags, as they cloud one’s judgment even when the red flags are glaringly apparent.
From experience, I often advise people, especially those that are about to get married, to know yourself first, take a journey to self. It will help have clarity on who you are, which will best serve you in knowing the person that will complement your strengths and weaknesses. It also gives better clarity when it comes to easily picking up red flags effortlessly even through a conversation and how the person treats others. If you want to get familiar with how to take a journey to self, you can read my blog post, “ Building Confidence Through Emotional Intelligence—A Journey To Self. ” Remember, self-awareness is your superpower in identifying and addressing red flags, empowering you to make informed decisions.
Make sure you do not ignore red flags, as they always show up in a more significant dimension through errors and problems. Have you noticed that people who go through business failures, breakups, or divorces will mention that they saw all the red flags but ignored them because emotions and sentiments were involved? Also, identifying red flags can alert one to the root cause of why a person is reacting in a certain way or why they approach matters in the way they do. It requires an analysis, which needs logical decision processing, and we all know that emotions and logic are two contrasting terms. One cannot make fair and objective decisions when one is up in their feelings, and the majority of the time, it leads to regrets. Ignoring red flags can lead to regrettable outcomes, so stay vigilant.
This is the awareness I am bringing to you all, so Sparkling Minds, make sure you all process red flags and analyze the root cause of the red flags if they are identified. Remember, it should be intentional and processed. You might just escape from that business gone wrong because of that red flag. You might just save yourself heartbreak, the drama that comes with divorce, or betrayal/rejection from a person who you thought was a friend just by identifying and processing red flags. By doing so, you pave the way for a brighter, more fulfilling future.
So, let’s raise this awareness on making better choices in relationships and who we associate ourselves or businesses with, as it might just change our trajectory in life. Feel free to share an experience of how identifying red flags saved you or the time you ignored red flags. In both situations, tell us what you did and how you overcame the error or problem. Remember, we are here to learn from each other’s experiences and life lessons to make us aware, which will empower us to fulfill our purposes in life. Your story could inspire someone else’s journey of growth.
Stay Thoughtful!