Hello Thoughtful People,
How have you been since our last post?
I’ve been sitting with our previous theme, Perception, and I truly hope you allowed yourself a moment to breathe, reflect, and ask: How do I see the world? And how much of what I “see” is shaped by old narratives, unhealed spaces, or inherited lenses that no longer serve me?
Perception is more than the stories we tell ourselves; it’s the filter through which we interpret intention, opportunity, and even our own worth. When perception shifts, everything shifts: the way we love, the way we lead, the way we protect ourselves, the way we dream. My hope is that you took the time to sit with perception long enough for it to reveal something both gentle and true.
And now, we step into something deeper.
Discernment is not suspicion.
It’s not fear.
And it’s not judgment hiding behind intelligence.
Discernment is clarity wrapped in peace.
It is a life skill.
A leadership advantage.
A spiritual technology.
A protective boundary.
A core pillar of emotional intelligence.
And one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself as you evolve.
Why Discernment Matters, Especially Now
We’ve entered the first week of December, the final stretch of the year.
This is the season when everything slows just enough for truth to rise.
This is when distractions lose their shine, when shallow connections feel heavier than usual, and when the soul starts whispering about what needs to be released… and what deserves to be carried into the next year.
Discernment matters right now because:
- Not everything that followed you into this year is meant to walk with you into the next.
- Not every good opportunity is a God opportunity.
- Not every familiar thing is a healthy thing.
- Not every “yes” you gave was rooted in peace; some were rooted in fear, pressure, or habit.
And the closing of a year always reveals the cost of carrying what was never yours to carry.
Discernment helps you choose differently, with wisdom instead of impulse, with clarity instead of confusion, and with intention instead of emotional reflex.
A woman once shared a moment from her life that stayed with me.
She said she used to walk a particular snow-covered path every morning.
One day, she saw what looked like a patch of smooth, untouched ice glistening beautifully beneath the sunrise. It was captivating. Almost magical.
Instinctively, she felt something whisper:
Not today. Walk around.
But the path looked fine, perfect, even.
So she ignored the whisper.
The moment she stepped on the ice, it cracked beneath her gently, silently, the way ice warns before it gives way. She jumped back just in time.
Later, she realized the ground wasn’t stable.
Beneath that beautiful layer of ice… was water deep enough to swallow her whole.
She said something I will never forget:
“Some things break only after you trust them. Discernment helps you sense the truth before the break.”
That is the power of discernment:
The knowing that protects your destiny, your peace, and your future, even when everything looks inviting.
1. Self-awareness
You begin to understand your patterns, motives, and triggers.
2. Self-regulation
You stop responding from survival mode and start responding from clarity.
3. Social awareness
You become sensitive to the energy, intention, and integrity behind people’s words and actions.
4. Compassion
Discernment helps you see the difference between someone’s behavior and their wound, without confusing the two.
5. Boundary-setting
You stop giving your peace to environments, relationships, and expectations that cannot hold it.
6. Decision-making
Your choices become sharper, quieter, wiser, aligned with your future, not your fears.
7. Intuition
You learn to trust the knowing inside you, the one that whispered long before the consequences spoke loudly.
Discernment doesn’t make life easier.
It makes life truer.
- What is my spirit whispering that my busyness keeps drowning out?
- Where have I been giving access without discernment?
- What truth have I avoided because it would require change?
- What am I forcing that silence could clarify?
- Where am I settling when I should be separating?
- What decision have I been postponing because I fear the responsibility of knowing?
- Who or what drains my peace more than it nourishes my purpose?
- What does peace want to teach me right now?
- What is the difference between what I want and what I am called to?
Let these questions sit with you.
Let them linger long enough to answer themselves.
xoxo, Stay thoughtful. 💜